Sunday, May 27, 2007

I found me

Today I finally figured it out. Figured what out you ask? Well for a long time now I have been trying to figure out who I am. I mean I obviously know my name and all that stuff but I am talking about who I am inside. I am so busy being a mom and a wife that I had forgotten who I was. Today though I figured it out. I went for a walk/drive all alone and listened to the animals and watched the birds and thought. As I was doing this it came to me. I have been spending so much time trying to figure out what I am besides a mom and a wife that I totally missed the fact that, that is who I am. The real me is a mom. A mom who loves her kids more than anything in the world. A mom who would do anything for her kids. A mom who actually enjoys soccer practices and spark meetings and braiding hair at night.

The real me is a wife. A wife who loves her husband so much that she gets butterflies in her stomach when she thinks about him. A wife who lives everyday to make her husband happy and feel fulfilled. A wife who is so lucky to have a husband that makes her feel like she is his world.

All of this came to me in a sudden moment of clarity. As I was struggling to figure out where the real me went I discovered that I have been here all along. I have just changed to become a better person. My kids make me a better person. My husband makes me a better person. They give me a reason to live and a reason to be a better person.

I may not party like I used to, I may not be able to have a conversation without talking about Colin or the girls. I may not be able to do anything without thinking about them but that is because they are a part of me. So the real me has them in it.

I also realized that even though I get frustrated and need a break sometimes, I still need them just as much as they need me.

Saturday, May 26, 2007

A family day

Today was a great day. We spent the whole day together as a family. What a novel thought that was. I mean who would have guessed that spending 10 whole hours together with your husband and children could make for a fun and enjoyable day? Not me. Not because I don't enjoy or love my family and not because I don't like to spend time with them. Its just that it happens so seldom that I never think of it. It is like one of those unattainable goals that you set for yourself at new years. You very rarely full fill your resolution but when/ if you do it is so worth it and you wonder why the hell you didn't do it before. That is what having an actual family day is like. I mean we do things together as a family but there is always a job or seven for other people thrown in there somewhere. Parts to pick up for his dad, groceries to pick up for his sister, something to drop of for his boss. At the very least there are the phone calls asking whether or not he can work today or some other work related type talk. Therefore I don't classify those as true family days. Today was a true family day.

First of all we went to Chuck E. Cheese with Bonnie, Keith and the kids. It was Isabelle's first time and she had lots of fun. She even played a game and won her first ticket. I was so proud. She got her picture taken while riding in a car with Chuck E. Once I get my printer all loaded up I will share that with you it is pretty cute. Emily, being the big mouse expert that she is, ran around and played games like a wild woman. At the end of it all she had enough tickets to get a ring, a necklace and a sucker which Colin had to point out cost him 60 bucks. Lol that's my honey always the practical one.......HA HA I am too funny no he isn't.

After that we went to the archery place. I like to compare this to a child visiting Toys R Us for the first time. You know big bulging eyes, darting around trying to take it all in and not miss anything. All the while trying to process how it is that so many wonderful things could come to live in the same space and how they are lucky enough to be in said fun filled space. I wish my camera was working because it was very cute. The help of a friend and one hour later and we were off. Fully equipped with a trigger thingy, arrows and a whisker bun or some other weird named thing like that. Colin carrying his bow like a proud first time father carrying his new baby to the car.

Next stop was Cowtown the home of all things western. I got a pair of pants and Colin bought a bunch of stuff for the horses....OK so maybe I helped. Either way we got a few things there and went to visit Chop. Jody and the kids for a little bit. We picked up Lynda and off we went to see the horses. They are so pretty. Colin and I both decided that we wanted to take them home right then and there but alas a place to put them and a place to haul them would probably help. Otherwise it would have been a long cold walk lol. So we both fell in love and are impatiently waiting to bring them home.

Grocery shopping was the last stop and ooh the fun. I mean really how exciting can getting groceries be? not much. We bought our stuff and after a zip through the McDonald's drive through and we were heading home. Of course we had to stop at the place where he got his motorbike from since the guy had forgotten to give him the key. Keys are a little important. We got home put away the food and had a snack and then put the kids to bed. You know they are tired when Emily asks if she can please go to bed. After the shock and me feeling her forehead to check if she was sick I put her to bed but for a minute there I was sure she was sick or I was on some sort of prank TV show. Nope she was just tired.

So now here I sit telling you all about it and after I hit the publish button I am heading for the sack myself. So goodnight all and talk to you later.

Friday, May 25, 2007

My adventure with Colin

We are healthy again!! You have no idea how very, very happy that makes me. Let me tell you I was getting a little worried that we were just infecting and reinfecting each other. Poor Lynda came out this weekend and she ended up getting our illness too. It was quite the scene I tell you. Me laying on the couch, Colin on the floor right next to me and Lynda next to him. It was quite the weekend and it had nothing to do with anything fun either. 3 sick adults and one sick baby does not make for a fun time. Thank goodness for my mother in law she took very good care of us all. So it was kind of a wasted weekend, but hey at least we got to spend time together.

I went for a ride in to the city in the semi with Colin on Wednesday. Let me just say that that I don't think I will ever do that again. It was snowing and blowing and cold. We drop of the load and are on the way back when the brakes go in the semi. Talk about scary. Driving through the city with a big truck hauling 2 trailers and no breaks. I was a little worried. We go to the truck fixer place (that is my technical term by the way), and they say that they have no time to fix it he will just have to drive it like that. UM HELLLOO!!! BIG TRUCK.NO BRAKES. Am I the only one that sees this as a problem? apparently because we head home. Half way home the truck dies on the side of the road. It won't start, we have no cell service its blizzarding and I am convinced that we are going to freeze to death and have to eat each other. Colin of course tries to calm me by saying that he can always walk half a mile down the road to the farm yard we passed and use their phone. Not only that but the wife of the guy he works with is visiting her cousin and has to drive right passed us to go home. So if nothing else she will stop and pick us up. I was just being irrational and panicking that's just the way I am. Needless to say we got picked up and did not freeze to death.

I then got the fun job of helping his dad separate calves and haul them in to the auction mart. This went relatively well except for the getting smacked into the paneling and getting a huge bruise on my hip. I am sore but I will survive. We sold one calf of ours and the price was just super (that was sarcasm for all those who didn't quite catch on) we got a whole $1.10 a pound. Now this makes me angry considering if I want to go to the store and buy a steak it costs me at least $5 a pound. Now someone explain to me how that works out. Highway robbery I tell you. Alas such is the life of a farmer. Always getting screwed 2 ways from Tuesday and then listening to people talk about how much the farmers complain. You would complain too if you were getting ripped off constantly. This is precisely why Colin has another job.

So on today's agenda is housework and planting my strawberries since it finally quit snowing. Have a good day everyone talk to you soon.

Sunday, May 20, 2007

here we are.

It has been quite the last few weeks. First of all we welcomed baby Joe. He finally made his appearance after a lot of waiting. 7lbs 13oz and cute as a button. His brothers are loving him and think he is great. So congratulations to Chop, Jody and family on the newest arrival.



Then I was sick but you all knew that, so I won't bore you with that story again. Other than that life is just motoring along. We have had family over for a while so it has been rather busy. The weekend was great with lots of comings and goings and throwing up and trips to the bathroom. What that's not what you do on the long weekend? Well you don't know what you are missing out on. I mean 9 people in one house 5 of which are sick with the flu and fighting over the bathroom. It was a very enjoyable weekend I tell you.

We bought 2 horses. One for me and one for Colin. Mine is named Dancer and Colin's is Buck. We go to pick them up on the 2nd of June so we are very excited about that. Emily and Isabelle have both been registered for swimming lessons in the summer, of course this means that I have to take swimming lessons also as Issy is a tiny bit to small to go by herself lol.

Colin's mom has been here helping out and it has been wonderful to have the extra help. The only down side is that she will eventually have to go home. Oh well we will cross that bridge when we get to it. My garden has been planted and I am now just impatiently waiting for my veggies to surface. YUM!!

So that is our life and what we have been up to. Sorry it was such a short post but when I have time I will update again. Love you all and I will update again soon I promise.

Monday, May 14, 2007

Oh the sickness!!!

This is going to be short and sweet people. So if you are looking for some lengthy, humorous tidbit for the day then I suggest you go and pick yourself up a copy of the newspaper and read yourself some Garfield cartoons. Now since that warning is out of the way here it is.

I want a remote for my life, yes I know that this has been done in an Adam Sandler movie but I would not be nearly as careless with the power as he was. You see I have a stomach bug. By this I mean I have been up all night throwing up and dizzy, oh and lets not forget the wonderful stomach cramps that feel as though someone is trying to pull your innards out through your belly button. Yes it was a long long night. However as a mom I must now pretend that I don't feel like the grim reaper is walking behind me just waiting for me to succumb at any moment. No I must feed children, change the baby and still do my daily mommy duties. So you see if I had this life remote then I could just pause the kids and lay down and sleep without worrying about what Isabelle has decided to try and eat now, or how many pieces of chocolate cake Emily has helped herself to. But alas there is no such thing so I must do what mothers before me have done......fake it. I tell you there should be an Oscar award given out to every mom on the planet because we have all had to act at one time or another and dammit I think we are good.

On a happy note my Moms Mother's Day present should be delivered to her today. Apparently Friday was too busy, however the lady at the flower shop assures me that they will be delivered today. I just want to say thank God for tele florists.

Well people I am off to my nest of sickness on the couch. From there I can see the happenings of the whole living room. Think of it as a lookout of sorts. Have a good day all!

Sunday, May 13, 2007

Happy Mother's Day!!

Happy Mother's Day to all of the moms out there. You know anyone can be a mother but it takes someone really special to be a Mom. Being a mom is the most important job in the world. No one tells you that from the time you first lay eyes on that little person a piece of your heart will forever be carried around outside your body. You will always worry about your children no matter how old they get.

Being a mom can be the most rewarding job too. This was my first Mother's Day with Emily in school. I remember making my mom things in school for mothers day and thinking that they were ugly and how would she ever love them. Now I understand. Emily brought me a flower that she had potted herself, sand at brownies in a jar and a card. It brought a tear to my eye. It wasn't diamonds or gold or a fancy dinner, yet it was the most wonderful gift I have ever been given. Who knew that I would become such a softy and would cry about something so simple. Since I am in a sappy mood I will share with you all the poem that was in the card Emily made for me at school.
Dear Mommy,
I think of all
The things you do,
And then I know
Why I love you.
You make my breakfast,
You wash my clothes.
You take me places
I want to go.
You teach me things,
You read to me.
You help me become
What I want to be.
You sing me songs,
You hold me tight.
You hold my hand
In the dark at night.
In all the world
I know it's true,
There is no mommy
Just like you.
Now if that wasn't enough to make you cry then she hugs me and says " you are the best mommy ever". Talk about make a person cry. So to all the mommies out there I just want to say, have a very extra special day!

Saturday, May 12, 2007

Happenings at our house.

My baby is 10 months old today. I can hardly believe it. 10 months ago she was brand spanking new and so little. I was tired but oh so happy, we had finally met this little girl who had caused so much trouble before she was even born. Apparently she decided to keep up the trend and we are still having trouble with her.

Where do I start? You all know about Isabelle’s “episodes: don’t you? Well here let me tell you a little about it. About three weeks ago I was sitting on the floor playing with Isabelle when all of a sudden she starts to scream as though someone was tearing off and arm or some other appendage. Then she got kind of stiff and her eyes kind of rolled back in her head and she turned blue. This want on for about a minute and then she lay on the floor with her eyes closed and was still blue. She was breathing fine but was blue around the lips. In my panicked state I called my good friend Bonnie and she told me to call the Health line. Now for those of you that don’t know what that is I will tell you. It is a number you call where you can talk to registered nurses and they ask you a whole bunch of questions and then tell you whether you should rush your little self in to the hospital or if you can wait until morning to go to see the Dr. Well they tell me that I should take her in right away, which by the way I was going to do anyhow considering my baby was blue.

So away we go to the hospital and see the DR. Now I am not an expert by any means but I do think that if you a medical PROFESSIONAL, and I use that term loosely, and you rely on people to feed your family then you should maybe be, oh I don’t know…….Friendly maybe? But that is just me perhaps I am asking too much. I mean what do I know right? I mean I didn’t go to medical school. Anyways the DR tells us that the health line tells everyone to go to the hospital and that Isabelle looked fine and we could have waited until the morning to bring her in. Oh I am sorry the next time my baby turns blue I will be sure and wait until a more convenient time for you. GRRR. Then he tells us that she probably got mad and threw a temper tantrum and that is why she turned blue. Um ok but for 5 minutes? Give me a break. I have seen many a temper tantrum but never one where the child turns blue for an extended period of time. So we left with everyone thinking that I was a hypochondriac mother who didn’t know what the hell I was talking about.

The next morning she did it again and then again that afternoon so I called the pediatrician. We went to see him and he tells me she is having seizures. It took all I had not to go back to the first Dr we saw and say “ha I told you there was something wrong”. It’s a good thing I am more mature than that. Anyhow, he wants to take her off of any and all medications and vitamins. He is thinking that maybe since she has been on so many drugs in the last few months maybe her little body has just had enough. We do this and it seems to help for a few days and then she starts with some strange eye things and some weird mouth thing. Not very technical description I know but that is the all I could come up with. I called the pediatrician back and he wants her in for an EEG, the soonest appointment they can get is for the 13th of June at 12:15pm. This sounds great right? Not really. There is a catch. She can’t have a morning nap! Now someone tell me how the hell I am supposed to accomplish that. An hour and a half drive into the city at her naptime and she can’t sleep? Umm sure no problem. Are there any other impossible feats you would like me to try whilst I am at it? Like catching a faerie in a bottle or taking a picture of a purple dragon or some sort of other impossible act? So if anyone has any ideas about how one would go about keeping an 11 month old awake in a car for over an hour and a half when she is supposed to be napping please let me know. If ever there was a time when I wanted my mommy instincts to be wrong this is definitely that time. You know what I am talking about all mothers have it. You just “know” when there is something wrong with one of your children.

Emily is still having trouble in school and has decided that she is going to exert her 16 year old mouth. As in having an attitude with me and giving me serious amounts of lip. I haven’t quite figured out how come Colin doesn’t get the same treatment though. She spent the day at the farm with her Daddy today so that I could have a break from her mouth and her attitude. I love her very much but I just don’t know what to so with her when she is like this.

At school she is just plain stubborn. She is fully capable of doing the work she just refuses to do it. What do you do with that? I mean if she was having trouble understanding something or didn’t know how to do it, I could practice with her and help her, but no amount of practicing is going to make her do the work. I just don’t know what to do with her. Colin’s mom and Grandma tell me that Colin was the exact same way in school. How lucky for me. However I have to say that I am a little relieved as I was sure that her stubbornness was my parents fault. I thought that when I was young and wonderful they had wished something like this on me but apparently it is her dad’s genetics. Yay I knew I was perfect.

On a happier note I am super duper happy and excited. First of all my parents are coming in June for a visit. Shhhhhh! It is a surprise for the kids. I am really looking forward to seeing them since it seems like it ahs been too long even though it was just at Christmas time. It still seems like forever to me though. I miss them every day and think about them all of the time. I wish they were closer and my kids could have the privilege of spending lots of time with them. My parents are truly special people who have the biggest hearts I have ever known. I have learned a lot from them over the years even if they don’t know about it. I strive all the time to be half the person that my parents are……Ok sappy moment over.

Happy occasion number 2 is that my bestest friend Bonnie told me about Dancing with the Stars and how it is coming to Saskatoon in July. She and Keith are going and now so are we. Colin is taking me for my birthday. I am soooo excited. You really have no idea how excited I am. It is great I tell you. So thank you, thank you Bonnie! And another thank, thank you to my hunny. Some people look their whole lives to find a friend like I have and a Hubby like mine. I am one lucky woman.

So that is the happenings at the Patterson household in a nutshell. If you made it this far in my book, thank you. I knew I had some loyal followers. Granted they are probably all my family but hey a follower is a follower right?

Monday, May 7, 2007

Another about us.

We are still here. Issy has been having some weird eye movements and mouth actions. Otherwise she has been good. I am still very tired. Went to the city today to get groceries. Had a huge ice cream cone and came home.
Colin's mom is here helping out for a week or so and let me tell you it is very much appreciated. As much as it pains me to admit it i need all the help I can get right now. So that is the basic happening of us. I will try to update more often now that I have some help and can maybe get a few minutes to myself each day.
The only other thing that I have to tell you all about is that we are all impatiently awaiting the arrival of baby Joe. Jodi has been told by the DR that he is on his way. So hurry up little man we are all waiting!!

Wednesday, May 2, 2007

Update on us.


Sorry it has been so long everyone. This is going to be short and sweet and to the point and there will be no humour intertwined in the message for your pleasure. For this I apologize.
Isabelle has been sick for about a month. I took her in about 2 weeks ago and they tell me that she has bronchitis. So they give her medication to clear it up. By this time I haven't slept in a week because she hasn't slept. I start her on the medications and she has this episode where she turns blue and cries and her eyes kind of do this weird closing thing. We take her to the hospital (thanks Keith and Bonnie) where she is all happy and perky and they basically brush me off and say that she is fine. Next day she has 3 more "episodes" I call the pediatrician and he says to bring her in. It turns out she is having seizures. The Dr is thinking it may be from all the meds that she has been on in the last few months. Her body is just telling us that it has had enough. So we are to stop all the meds and vitamins and everything and let her system clear out. If she has any more seizures she will be admitted to the hospital and they will run a bunch of tests to see what is going on. My sister has epilepsy so therefore there is always the possibility that she has it too. So that is all I know. I have now been going 9 days with little to no sleep and my brain has shut down all unnecessary functions in order to keep me breathing and my heart beating. Things like humour, wit and thought are now unavailable until further notice. So I apologize. I will try to keep you all up to date on whats going on.

Emily is doing better in school and just started soccer. She is loving it and having a blast. Growing like a weed and getting prettier by the day other than that she is just being a typical 6 year old.

Colin and I are both exhausted and Colin is still working long hours. I feel like I am teetering on the edge of a cliff just waiting for one more little breeze to come along and blow me over. How does that saying go again? What doesn't kill us makes us stronger right?