My thoughts on life

Well first and foremost it sucks most of the time. Not just sucks like I scraped my knee more like the proverbial version of a country song. You know my wife left me, my dog died, the bank is coming to take my house, that kind of sucks. There are things that happen in life that no one will ever be able to prepare you for. Things like how your husband will work and work and you will still be lucky if you can pay all the bills in the same month and buy your own groceries. How your kids will not be the perfect little angels that you envisioned and they will have an opinion and their own will and they are gonna use it whether you like it or not. Things like how people that you called friends and valued will hurt you and say things about you that just go to show you that they really didn't bother to get to know you at all.

Some of the worst things you can ever say to a parent, especially a mother, is that she uses her kids and sets a bad example. I have tried my whole life to do what was right and what was best for my babies but I am now told that this is a bad thing and I am setting a bad example for them. So will someone please tell me exactly what I am to teach them. Apparently it isn't to stand up for yourself and what you believe in. If this is the case then I guess my parents also did a shitty job because these are the same values that they instilled in me. I really think that someone needs to write a book on what you should and should not teach your children and how you should raise them. I think that this book should be written by someone who doesn't have kids because they seem to be the ones who have all of the answers. Man I wish I would have thought of some of the questions I have now before I had kids then I could have jotted down the answers. This way when I had kids and got stupid I could look back to my smarter days and avoid being told how to raise my kids by childless people. Oh what a headache that would have saved. I am sure that all of you parents out there can relate to what I am saying. I am sure that you have all at one time or another been told,by someone who doesn't have kids, all the things you are doing wrong. Doesn't it just make you feel great? I know it makes me feel wonderful.

The only thing that is in the same category with being told how to parent by people without kids , is being told how to parent by people who have now got grand kids. When they raised children they all ran around outside drinking water from puddles and licking the lead paint from on their cribs and they turned out fine. I mean why make my children wear seat belts or sit in car seats how stupid and a waste of money. Oh I could go on and on but I will stop there.

Even though you all think that this is nothing but a woe is me life sucks story it does have some happy spots. As much as it can really, really suck sometimes it can also be really really good too. Times like when you spend a whole day with your husband and children and watch the man that you love look at your children with such love in his eyes that it takes your breathe away. When your kids look at you and smile, making their little faces light up.Or when they say Mommy you are a great Mom. Or when your husband says he doesn't need friends as long as he has you. Or when you are feeling really fat and can't get your pants done up because of that second piece of chocolate cake that you ate and he looks at you and tells you how beautiful you are and how lucky he is. Those are the good times and even though the bad times really,really suck the good times make it all worth while. So even though my life sucks a lot its OK because it makes me appreciate the good times all the more.